I've been Mothering for over 15 years now. It's nice to hear that you're doing a good job every now and then isn't it? Who doesn't like a pat on the back or for someone to recognize that you work hard? Sure a pay check would be nice but that's not why we're in this business is it? My Dad is always quick with words of encouragement. I love that even at my age and with 4 of my own children, I still look to my own parents for advice and support. He reminded me yesterday to let my husband know that he's doing a good job too. Something I don't do enough of, I know. I get all caught up in my own day of diapers, driving, dinners and dishes that I don't realize that he's had a long day too.
I can't stand that game of "who's day was worse"...and believe me, it's usually me screaming.."I win!"....Yes, when Steve comes home from work, I'm knee deep in homework and housework but I need to remember that he's worked just as hard. Would it kill me to put a smile on my face (even a fake one) when he walks in the door instead of throwing a kid at him?
I tell my kids all the time to treat people how you would like to be treated...I need to do the same.
* Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight. ~ Phyllis Diller
Thanks for this reminder. I rarely acknowledge Brad's efforts. And that's wrong.
ReplyDeleteI'll be smiling when he comes home tonight--even if my teeth are gritted behind it!
ohhhh that baby. can i borrow him for a day? just to remind myself that my children were all that sweet and cuddly?
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you realize this in time to do something about it. Too many wives learn too late. You are a great mother and Steve is an equally great father. The perfect pair! xoxo
ReplyDeleteWonderful, thoughtful post. Lynn works way harder than I do, and I try to always ask him what I can do to ease his burden. He never complains....God love him! Even though he's weary and can't wait to get home, he'll still stop and pick up a bottle of wine or something I forgot at the grocery store.
ReplyDeleteGive Steve lots of loves! xoxo
i love these words- we do teach our children to treat others as we would like to be treated...do unto others...& even explain about a good dose of kharma- but sometimes it seems that 'our' jobs are just a little bit harder than everyone else's!& to be honest i do think we perhaps balance alot more- multi task alot more- & this is what makes us feel so stretched at times...but in saying this i am going to thank my husband tonite for the cup of tea he made me before he wen to work this morning....and for 'going' to work for us 4 at home knee deep in the rest of our life together- .....your'e a wise woman xx
ReplyDeleteYou are so honest. That is why your hubby loves you & your are growing in followers. Refreshing!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right! The blame game never seems to have a winner. One day I decided I was really sick of that stressor and just gave up. A little good listening paid off big... he returns the favor now.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photo. I can smell the baby freshness. We play the game who had a harder time of it, when hubs is away for work. I imagine him laying in a comfy queen bed watching TV, eating out, going for drinks, etc, while I hold down the fort. It makes me cranky when he comes home tired, complaining he had poor sleeps. I need to start working on this, as he has to travel a fair amount.
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Wise (young) woman.....you're so on target! Since I am (a lot) older I can blabber on, right? The BEST advice I've ever gotten is: "...make sure all is right between you & your spouse OVER you and your children. He'll be there when that nest is empty." And, I worked it. The marriage. And it's paid off. :) I do believe lifestyles from the '50s, Leave It to Beaver & Father Knows Best really DID know best! Put on some gloss & a smile and treat him like a king. You'll be glad you did. Sorry about my soapbox. BTW-that photo is too much. A-dor-able! xoxo
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