Tuesday, April 13, 2010
There is a Better Way...
Not too long ago I was in Walmart...before I gave up shopping at Walmart. In the check out line a mother was threatening her small child with a spanking when they got home. He had been asking for candy...too many times apparently and the mother was sick of hearing it. The boy started crying and the mother said that the kid "deserved a spanking." Deserved a spanking. Does any child deserve a spanking? If your spouse ticks you off do you hit them? Your sibling? Your friend? Your co-worker? WHY...please tell me why it's ok to hit your child who is small and helpless?
I was reading a column about spanking on a parenting website recently...a mom wrote in asking if she'd go to jail for hitting her kid. This mother was more worried about going to jail than hurting her child. There is something really wrong here.
Did you also know that corporal punishment is legal in 29 states?? WHAT?? I'm sorry, but again...WHY??
Years ago I picked up a copy of Dr. Sears' Discipline book. I was a big fan of his Baby book and the Discipline book resonated with me. Dr. Sears tells us to not use the Bible as an excuse to spank. The phrase "Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child" is not even in the Bible.....somewhere along the line this verse..."He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." Prov. 13:24....was turned into a green light for spanking.
Studies have shown that children who are spanked don't remember what they did to receive the punishment..they only remember the spanking. So, is this an effective way to discipline?
There is a better way to discipline our children. Plain ol' common sense tells us this is not the way....