"In all my time and effort spent researching the best ways to mother, I have come full circle to realize that in almost all cases, the best choices for the health of children and mothers are the ones you would make if stranded on a deserted island and forced to follow your instincts. Trust birth. Breastfeed. Keep your baby whole. Sleep by your baby. Wear your baby. Communicate with your baby. Listen and respond to your baby's cues and cries." ~ Jennifer Coias
A friend just sent me this quote and I have read it and re-read it a million times. I think I might print it out and hang it up. To me, these words affirm my beliefs in mothering.
As I am still on my retreat high, thoughts of the weekend have been running through my head. The conversations I had with other mothers truly validated my convictions and boy does that make you feel good. To find someone else out there that thinks like you! I'm not alone! I'm not "weird" because I'm still nursing, or that we sleep with our baby. Because for years I felt like that. Alone..like I was stranded on a deserted island. And then about 12 years ago I found someone who mothered like me. It was through a natural parenting website and from there we started emailing and became friends. We don't email really anymore..instead follow each others blogs . She helped me realize that how I was parenting was not just normal..it was right.
I so strongly believe that mothers and their babies need to bond. On every level. Physically, your body reacts the minute after that baby is born and is almost demanding you to nurse him. Emotionally, you are overcome with love and affection for this new life that you have created. Spritually, you are thankful for the gift that God has given you. Mentally, you are preparing yourself for the job that is now entrusted to you.